Sunday, July 12, 2009

why people change?

Why people change? I have been thinking over it from last few days since I have observed some change in the behavior of one of my near one. Is it just natural for a person to change without any reason or is something going inside his/her mind? We always think that we know much about people whom we are close to? But the question has started distressing me …do I really know? If that would have been true I would have never felt this change? Which is upsetting me daily with thousands of depressing things peeping into my head…? So what should I do now?
Shall I speak up about this change to him/her or should I remain quiet and observe his/her behavior for some more time….can anyone predict human nature? I don’t know whether people change at all. But I know the way a person behaves is sometimes so unexpected that we feel that they have changed….and same is the case with me.
Last few days and nights I have been thinking over this change?
Why has this change occurred?
When I don’t see any reason to change at all…
Am I so cold-blooded, insensitive and heartless that I couldn’t understand his/her feelings…or is the other one who has stopped thinking about me…?
How should I deal with this change which is making me to sob day and nights…?
Since the day I have felt this change I am not happy. I always try to cheer up myself that if something is mine, that will always be mine…and if not…then think that it was never mine…
But my heart is such that it doesn’t get soothed by these things. It always prompt me to find out the cause…which again questions me back…if my love for him/her did not change, how could he/she do so?
If my feelings are same as they were years ago……how he/she is not able to feel them now…
Why I feel saddened with every answer that I hear from him/her for my questions....
Have they really changed themselves or is it me who has increased her expectations from him/her….
Which one is true…I don’t know…
I know that I need him/her very much in my life to love, care, support and walk the every step of life with me…But I am confused as how should I speak this to him/her. I fear what if I get disappointing answer…I fear the breaking of my heart….But then again same thought occurs to my mind. If he/she wants to break my heart…He/she will definitely do that one day…so I should go and speak to him/her about this change…But I fear to face rejection. I know I can’t cope with the disappointing answer……I have almost zero ego strength. Hence I have decided to let happen things as they are
Happening with the same thought in mind …
If something’s yours and you let it go,
if it comes back to you, then it was yours all along.

7 comments:

ishqia said...

u could always take a bit of initiative and ask whats the matter, its good to let go, but perhaps he or she want u to hold her or him back.. everything must be spoken over i suppose.. perhaps there is something bothering her or him and he or she just feel reluctant to speak with u..

just speak it over and end the confusion..

Huh? Where am I ? said...

ohh.. just cher up..
last few line is ur solution.
normally guy dunt like share their personal/professional problem, but keep patinence , things wil ok soon !..

keep smiling ... ye bada wala...:D

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Aditya Dogra said...

I haven't gone through the whole post but it seems like inter-resting one :-). My neurons says "Avoiding is the best way to take a revenge " also "Its not the words of your enemies but the silences of your friends that eat you in the end". So let him/her in his/her state of mind and you enjoy your state of mind. Live and let die :-) :-)

trainmate said...

An old Sanskrit phrase says “expectation is the root of all problems.” But this is human nature, whatever we do we expect same or better returns. “ maine andhe kue se chaha ki mere dale hue sikkon ki khanak suna de, maine sukhe pahadon se manga ki meri aawaaz ki goonj mujh tak pahuchaa de, meri aaddat hi kuchh aisi hai ki mai aasman me dhhondhata hoon woh sitara, jisane chhini hai mere chehare ki chamak woh to lauta de” give him/her and yourself some time and you will be able to see things in different light. He/she has not changed, probably you came across new aspect of him/her. As you get closer to anybody small things start feeling like big object. Accept,adjust,mould but don’t get hurt.

prajyot said...

where have u been?

Amit Aggarwal said...

if he/she is really close.. u shud point out tht to him .. "why he is changing".. and if tht change is gud or bad for him.